The Dark Candle

Here is a great story to remind us that we need to continue on. Thanks for sharing it, Linda.

A man had a little daughter – an only and much – beloved child. He lived for her – she was his life. So when she became ill and her illness resisted the efforts of the best obtainable physicians, he became like a man possessed, moving heaven and earth to bring about her restoration to health.

His best efforts proved unavailing and the child died. The father was totally irreconcilable. He became a bitter recluse, shutting himself away from his many friends and refusing every activity that might restore his poise and bring him back to his normal self. But one night he had a dream. He was in Heaven and was witnessing a grand pageant of all the little child angels. They were marching in an apparently endless line past the Great White Throne. Every white-robed angelic tot carried a candle. He noticed that one child’s candle was not lighted. Then he saw that the child with the dark candle was his own little girl. Rushing to her, while the pageant faltered, he seized her in his arms, caressed her tenderly, and then asked:

“How is it, darling, that your candle alone is unlighted?”

“Father, they often relight it, but your tears always put it out.”

Just then he awoke from his dream. The lesson was crystal clear, and its effects were immediate. From that hour on he was not a recluse but mingled freely and cheerfully with his former friends and associates. No longer would his little darling’s candle be extinguished by his useless tears!

Be Well.
The Gratitude Guru


  1. Trey Danna on July 12, 2011 at 10:20 am

    Beautiful lesson. My wife died almost 5 years ago of Breast Cancer. At the time of her death my 3 boys were 10 months, 5 and 6.

    In a lot of way i have reconciled, but there is still a definite emptiness of wholeness of congruity that is missing. I weep tears of pain and defeat. I feel sorry for myself sometimes and am often waiting for it to be easier.

    This lesson is very powerful. Because while we may not get back the comfortable nuclear family, I may be missing a lot of opportunities for growth and happiness.

    Thank you,


    • Paul on July 12, 2011 at 11:48 am

      Trey –
      It is tough losing someone like that! Keep her thoughts alive while moving forward at the same time. Easier said than done, I know!

      Thanks for sharing.

  2. Steve Haskins on July 12, 2011 at 1:43 pm

    What a good story. It can be hard to remember that not enjoying today does nothing to change yesterday.

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