Five Positive Ways to Express Your Gratitude

A couple of days ago, I wrote about “Show Your Gratitude to Others with Compliments” – this is certainly a great way to express gratitude.

In the past couple of days, a few folks have reached out and let me know that they have difficulty expressing gratitude. Oftentimes, gratitude is mixed in with other feelings like jealousy, envy, embarrassment, or insecurity. Why? Because it can be humbling to admit that we need help from others. 

It is important to realize that expressing gratitude does not mean you are weaker or inferior in any way. Gratitude simply expresses your appreciation and shows the respect you have for others.

By focusing on an attitude of gratitude, you’ll find that it’s a lot easier to express how you feel. Plus, people will be far more willing to help someone who respects and appreciates them.

Here are Five Ways to Express Gratitude:

  1. Keep it simple.  Instead of thinking about how best to express your thanks, just say it.  Tell the person “Thank you” or “I appreciate it” and let that be the end of it.  Gratitude is something that can be easily expressed just as long as it’s genuine.  Expressing gratitude is as important as anything else in your relationships because it builds trust and respect.
  2. Write a letter.  Sometimes the best thing we can do is use the power of the written word to express our thanks.  Get a thank you card or a piece of stationery and write a letter. It’s one of the most personal ways of expressing gratitude nowadays, especially since few people take the time to write by hand.  Again, you can keep it simple by letting the person know that you appreciate them.  You can hand-deliver the letter or drop it in the mail so it can be a nice surprise in between the stack of junk mail and bills. 
  3. Give a gift.  When someone does something nice for you, a nice way to express your appreciation is to give a small “thank you” present.  This doesn’t have to be anything costly or extravagant, just something that shows that you appreciate what they have done for you.  For instance, you might give a coffee lover a gift certificate to their favorite coffee shop, or buy a chocolate lover a gourmet piece of chocolate. It’s a simple gesture that can go a long way.
  4. Return the favor.  If someone has done something nice for you, a simple way to show your appreciation is to return the favor by giving your time.  For instance, if someone has helped you during a time of need, tell them that you want to take them to lunch, dinner, or dessert for being such an instrumental person in your life.  This lets them know you appreciate them and it also gives you a chance to chat and grow closer.
  5. Tell others.  While you are in the presence of the person or people that you wish to thank, share your gratitude with others.  Public forms of gratitude are important because it shows just how much you appreciate and care for others. This will also help you let go of any insecurities, jealousy, or anger because you are putting others first.

Gratitude is an important part of all relationships, so today, let go of your fears and simply say “Thanks!” to all those around you!


  1. Martha on January 14, 2022 at 11:59 am

    Thanks Paul for all you do to put the UBC together! Your tips are always helpful and the one thing Lia and I love to do when sharing our gratitude is sharing a gift. It’s usually her homemade cookies or bread. If you lived next door you would be on the list for some cookies! I always follow your list of 5 ways to express gratitude. Thanks for sharing!

    • Paul on January 23, 2022 at 2:52 pm

      Note: Time for Paul to move… Thanks, Martha!

  2. Diana Walker on January 14, 2022 at 12:41 pm

    I am grateful for you, Paul, and all I am learning and it is helping me to blog a little more consistently. I used to keep a Gratitude Journal… It really makes a difference, especially to keep me centered and focused on the good in the world, and not go into worry and fear. Thank you for your terrific post. Diana

    • Paul on January 23, 2022 at 2:56 pm

      Thank you, Diana! I am grateful to you for being a member of the UBC.

  3. Rachel Lavern on January 14, 2022 at 2:29 pm

    While I had always heard that gratitude had numerous psychological benefits, I did not get really intentional about it until shortly after the pandemic hit. I’ve always freely expressed my appreciation to others. I added a gratitude practice where I write at least five things that I’m grateful for each in a journal. It not simply a list–I include all the feels in it.

    • Paul on January 23, 2022 at 2:59 pm

      When you practice gratitude, you feel a(n)

      • Increase in happiness.
      • Decrease in depression and anxiety
      • as well as a sense of connection with others.
  4. Hanna on January 14, 2022 at 2:35 pm

    Love this! Love gifts as a gratitude ? I often do that for my family and friends

    • Paul on January 23, 2022 at 3:05 pm

      It is a great thing for friends and famliy.

  5. Tamara on January 14, 2022 at 3:09 pm

    These five ways come natural to me. I pay attention to what people say and like. If I come across something that represents their passion, I’ll buy for them – or take a picture cause I can’t go around handing out Teslas 😉

    I want to thank you for hosting this challenge – it’s a lot of fun!
    Happy Friday 🙂

    • Paul on January 23, 2022 at 3:06 pm

      Thanks, Tamara! Let me know if you need my address to deliver my Tesla. Or… I can always fly to you and just drive it home! 🙂

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