Gratitude via Email

I received an email today from a subscriber who was having Gratitude issues. After replying and letting her know my unsolicited thoughts, I thought that I would share this info with everyone.

Of course, certain things in the email were changed (i.e., name, and some other things) so as not to invade on anyone’s privacy.

Gratitude-EmailPaul, I wanted you to know that I am getting your daily gratitude burst and it gives me great comfort, so thank you very much.

At the moment I am trying to deal with many family problems and am finding it very difficult to have an attitude of gratitude. The ridiculous thing is that the problems are not mine and yet I am losing sleep over them.

Tomorrow i will start another gratitude diary and see if it helps.

Thank you for your encouragement.–John Doe

Here is my reply:

Hi John –

I am sorry you are dealing with this. it does not sound like you are having fun at all!

Here is my unsolicited advice – and it is free – so consider the value there 🙂

1. Just smile. Don’t think. Just smile. This simple act can be a short respite from the stress you are feeling. It has the potential of changing your entire mood.

2. Remember that there is a lesson in all this for you. You might not like it and you might wish it was not happening. But, you are meant to learn something from this. In the middle of the confusion you might be going through, try to analyze what it is that you need to learn. Is it, “How do I  deal with difficult family members?” Or perhaps it is, “How can I better communicate with my teenage son or daughter?” I don’t know what you are facing, but you can grow from it.

The key here is to learn the lesson NOW so it is not repeated again in the future. I am a slow learner and I am presented with the same lessons sometimes.. over and over again. 🙂

3. A gratitude journal will help, I am sure! Make it a discipline. Set a time each day (or multiple times a day) and write it in. If you don’t feel like writing, that is a sign that you really should! Here is a link to a post I wrote about them: Gratitude Journal

I hope these three tid-bits help you through this unsettling time. Doing them is easier said than done, I understand that. Give it your best shot!

Be Well.


Even if life is going great for you, these 3 items will help bring more gratitude into your life.

1 Comment

  1. Ginger (Ginni) on September 4, 2010 at 8:40 am

    In one regard, gratitude is like forgiveness — ultimately, it is about the one who is grateful or the one who forgives.

    At the moment, I am experiencing an issue with my niece, whom I love. She has shut down all communications between us because she believes that I “sided” with her soon-to-be ex-husband. If she had allowed me to reply, I would have explained that I am “siding” with my 3 year old great-nephew, not his Mom or Dad.

    Initially, I was crushed about all this, not the least because I have not been able to see my great-nephew for 5 months (I used to see him twice a month). However, I realized (with the help of close friends) that my reaction was having toxic effects on me. And, whenever I experience toxic emotions, these have a way of affecting others around me as well.

    At a retreat a couple of years ago, I participated in a simple yet powerful concl
    uding exercise. About 60 of us were seated around the perimeter of a room, with the retreat leader in the middle. He tossed a large ball of yarn to someone, and asked the recipient to hold on to the yarn and toss the ball to someone else. The idea was to keep tossing until each of us was holding a piece of the yarn. When everyone held a piece of the yarn, the leader asked one of us to tug on their piece. Guess what? Every one of us felt that tug! Even though our connection may be very slight, we have an effect on the world around us.

    Soooooo, I am in teh daily process of adopting a perspective of gratitude on this matter. I am grateful for my niece and her child, whether or not I am in contact with them. I meditate on this and ask my Higher Power’s help with this. And slowly, my attitude is changing. My sister (my niece’s Mom) mourned that her daughter may “cut off” the whole family. I replied “That may actually be very good for her.” and I meant what I said.

    Interesting enough, th
    ere was a recent incident in which my niece actually communicated with me in a two sentence email. When I began to analyze why, a friend retorted “That is a Management (Higher Power) issue, and you do not qualify as Management.” Truer words were never spoken — and I was nudged back on my gratitude track.

    Wishing you serenity,

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